In the movie "Soldier" infants were chosen to be raised and trained as soldiers. Their parents gave them up to people of whom they didn't even know. The infants had to go through training for seventeen years and even after that they still weren't done. They had no control over what they could do or else they were basically tortured. This is sometimes the same now with how parents raise their children. Sometimes parents have goals for their children even though their child wants nothing to do with those goals that their parents have. In your life has there ever been a time where you were forced to do something, even though you didn't want to? Has there been a time in your life where you had no control over what you could do? Did your parents have goals for you which you didn't want to pursue?
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I was never forced to ever do anything i didn't want to. Of course in sports they make u run which nobody likes doing but besides that,never. I was always to strong to be forced into something. If i didn't want to do something i was strong enough to say no. At times i wish that i was forced into doing things, mainly college. I wish that my parents made me go to college and would pay for it but they don't. I guess i wasn't as lucky as some.
The only time my parents ever forced me to do something was when it came to school because education was very important to them. Even when I decided to get a job, they told me if it affected my school work then I had to quit working. Fortunatly, I was able to balance school and work, but I was forced to listen to what my boss told me to do. We had to do whatever the customer's wanted, so I had no control over what I could do. Having a job was the only time when I truly felt forced to do whatever they asked me to do, but the reward for doing what they asked was quite nice.
There has never been anything long-term that my parents made me do other than attend school (which i thank them for). However, there were small things that i did not have control over. There were many times when i was younger where my parents made me go to a movie, a siblings sporting event, or go to religious school. Other than small things such as those, my parents let me decide what to do with my life. My parents did not encourage or require me to attend a particular university or study a specific major. My parents mainly support me in the decisions, which i am very thankful for.
I unfortunately have been forced many times in my life to do things i dont necessarily want to do. My parents are the type of people who think about getting what they want and not putting anything past it. When they or someone else would need something i seem to be automatically volunteered. Babysitting, going on vacations, and attending pointless meetings for the benefit of their doubt is always something i have to base my plans along. Actually i am going home this weekend and my dad already volunteered me to help out at the school, with homecoming related functions while i am home. I dont have a choice and i feel like my life is being planned out for me everything i do.
I can remember being really little and having to wake up early saturday morning to go play in kinder kickers which is soccer for little toddlers. At the time when my mom signed me up I was really excited but when it came time to go to the games early saturday I would want to go. I would cry and cry telling my mom I didnt want to go. But she would always end up making me go. I didnt have a choice she would tell me. Other then that my parents never really made me do anything I didnt want to do. As I grew up I learned that I never would be aloud to miss practices or games unless I had a good excuse. I think it taught me a good lesson.
I can not think of one time in particular where my parents made or wanted me to do something that I did not want to do. Again, i can not think of a time where I felt like I had no control over what I was doing and i never had goals that my parents not I wanted to pursue. Basically, my parents have always been supportive of what I wanted to and the choice and goals that i have made for myself. They always backed me up with what I wanted rather then what they wanted me to do.
I am very fortunate to have parents that let me do what i wanted to do. I was never forced into pursuing something i didn't want to do. My parents have always been supportive in every decision I have made. I think its amazing how some parents dont let their kids make decisions for themselves. I feel as a parent I would want my kids to be as happy as possible, which would mean that they would choose their own interests.
My parents have never forced me into anything I have not wanted to do. Although, they did pressure me enormously to run track in college. I cannot count how many arguments I had with them about not wanting to pursue track. I had run track through grade school and high school and always thought that I would want to go to college on a track scholarship. My parents were thrilled about this but when my senior year track rolled around, I was not to thrilled about this idea. So, I told them that I did not plan on running in college and that caused multiple fights for a long period of time. They attempted to make me feel guilty about my choice, and dish me the "disappointed" card but I did not budge. I knew my heart was not in it, and I was not going to be miserable doing something that I was "forced" into.
When I was younger my dad made me play hockey because when I was figure skating he didn't think it was enough of a team sport so he made me play hockey. I didn't not have control because I figured I should try it out but my parents were usually pretty understanding with what I wanted to do. My parents have goals for me but I have the same goals as them, like going to college.
I dont think I've ever been forced to do anything that I didnt want to do. My parents have expectations of me, such as maintaing good grades, but these are the same goals that I have for myself. Im not forced to go to college or to work at my job because these are things I no I need and want to do. My parents and other athority figures in my life have never been controling. They have just helped by pushing me in the right direction. I would hate to be forced to do somthing I didnt want to do, or that wouldnt benefit me in some way.
My parents never really gave me long term goals to reach. They always wanted me to set my own goals. The only stipulation was that I had to follow through no matter what. There was only one time that i ever quit something, and ironically it was my favorite thing to do. My parents realized that I wasn't happy and it was the rare time they gave me a pass. They made me get a job, and no matter how bad it was I would have to do. I never quit a job, just stopped do to other commitments, but always left the right way to be able to return. My parents raised me like, if I work and prove to them I am, they have no problem with paying for dinner, or a movie, or buying me a car to use, or pay for my education. I just have to make sure I stick to it and work hard at it.
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